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* Billionaires for Bush: "You have nothing to lose but your job": Enjoy the ripping satire as they unveil the hidden agendas and the unarticulated realities in need of change a la Jonathan Swift: good for a laugh, to shed a tear, to channel the rage, food for thought, and a spur to wise actions: www.billionairesforbush.com and their charming RNC protest recap: http://www.geocities.com/artandpolitics//nycbillionaires/(Make up a B4B name of your own (e.g. Phil T. Rich, Philip R. Coffins, K. Ching): I came up with: Lou T. DePoor and X.P. Leutenlye - don't forget to check out www.equalexchange.com and their story!
*Theater for the New City's Progressive plays: www.theaterforthenewcity.net
Off Off Broadway Theater listings: http://offoffonline.com/theaters.php
*Bush is Bad: The Musical The Triad Theater: 158 W.72nd St. Thurs. and Fri / 9:00 pm
http://theater2.nytimes.com/gst/theater/tdetails.html?id=1127983816862
Al Gore's Movie: An Inconvenient Truth: http://www.climatecrisis.net/
New York City Fair Trade Coalition: Second Tuesdays of the month www.fairtradenyc.org
Human Rights Watch Film Festival: http://hrw.org/iff/2006/ny/
- NYC Films at IFC Center: www.ifccenter.com
- NYC Folk music by Bryan and Marcy: www.bryanandmarcy.com
- Some Label Music: Anti-flag: www.anti-flag.com b) Audioslave: www.audioslave.com (and their action link www.axisofjustice.org ) ; c) Alanis Morrisette: www.alanis.com ; d) The Indigo Girls: http://www.indigogirls.com/ e)
Dixie Chicks: www.dixiechicks.com f) Dave Matthews Band: www.davematthewsband.com * Independent news: Democracy Now! www.democracynow.org Air America Radio: www.airamericaradio.com Michael Moore: www.michaelmoore.com WBAI: www.wbai.org
Sept. 3 - Ecofest : Lincoln Center Plaza www.ecofest.org
Weekly and Oct. 5th: **www.Worldcantwait.org** Drive out the Bush regime meetup
Second Tuesdays: Greendrinks Social Hour www.green-links.org
New York City Fair Trade Coalition: www.fairtradenyc.org
* Progressive Politicians in NYC see www.dl21c.com
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*Mon/Wed 7:30 pm Sun 4:00 pm Park Slope Food Coop Orientation www.foodcoop.com
Free at the Park Slope Food Coop, 2/3 to Grand Army Plaza in Bklyn
Join the Sierra Club: http://newyork.sierraclub.org/nyc/ , www.sierraclub.org
Non-Violent Communication Workshops www.nycnvc.org
* Billionaires for Bush: "You have nothing to lose but your job": Enjoy the ripping satire as they unveil the hidden agendas and the unarticulated realities in need of change a la Jonathan Swift: good for a laugh, to shed a tear, to channel the rage, food for thought, and a spur to wise actions: www.billionairesforbush.com and their charming RNC protest recap: http://www.geocities.com/artandpolitics//nycbillionaires/(Make up a B4B name of your own (e.g. Phil T. Rich, Philip R. Coffins, K. Ching): I came up with: Lou T. DePoor and X.P. Leutenlye - don't forget to check out www.equalexchange.com and their story!
*Theater for the New City's Progressive plays: www.theaterforthenewcity.net
*Bush is Bad: The Musical The Triad Theater: 158 W.72nd St. Thurs. and Fri / 9:00 pm
http://theater2.nytimes.com/gst/theater/tdetails.html?id=1127983816862
Al Gore's Movie: An Inconvenient Truth: http://www.climatecrisis.net/
New York City Fair Trade Coalition: Second Tuesdays of the month www.fairtradenyc.org
Human Rights Watch Film Festival: http://hrw.org/iff/2006/ny/
- NYC Films at IFC Center: www.ifccenter.com
- NYC Folk music by Bryan and Marcy: www.bryanandmarcy.com
- Some Label Music: Anti-flag: www.anti-flag.com b) Audioslave: www.audioslave.com (and their action link www.axisofjustice.org ) ; c) Alanis Morrisette: www.alanis.com ; d) The Indigo Girls: http://www.indigogirls.com/ e)
Dixie Chicks: www.dixiechicks.com f) Dave Matthews Band: www.davematthewsband.com * Independent news: Democracy Now! www.democracynow.org Air America Radio: www.airamericaradio.com Michael Moore: www.michaelmoore.com WBAI: www.wbai.org
Sept. 3 - Ecofest : Lincoln Center Plaza www.ecofest.org
Weekly and Oct. 5th: **www.Worldcantwait.org** Drive out the Bush regime meetup
Second Tuesdays: Greendrinks Social Hour www.green-links.org
New York City Fair Trade Coalition: www.fairtradenyc.org
* Progressive Politicians in NYC see www.dl21c.com
*
*Mon/Wed 7:30 pm Sun 4:00 pm Park Slope Food Coop Orientation www.foodcoop.com
Free at the Park Slope Food Coop, 2/3 to Grand Army Plaza in Bklyn
Join the Sierra Club: http://newyork.sierraclub.org/nyc/ , www.sierraclub.org
Non-Violent Communication Workshops www.nycnvc.org
We want to make America what it wants to be, a first class superpower. Just like Europe with its Social Responsibility and Wind turbines, and Japan with its Hybrid Cars, and Brazil with its Ethanol fuel. There are Public Interest Groups of all kinds working on your behalf as citizens. We have skilled practitioners and well-informed leaders advising us about making the world a better place in all kinds of ways. Spiritual figures have talked about "Salvation", and Therapists talk about personal healing, Activists talk about empowerment and civil rights. Let's bring it all together so that we can party, learn to relax, and raise our families without worrying about all the evils of the world. We do not need to fear our enemies if we know the power of love. Like someone once said, "We have met the enemy, and he is us."
When they say "Love conquers all", it is also worth noting that activists like Martin Luther stood up to corrupt powers, lived fulfilling lives, and started families. All kinds of famous activists have done this. John Muir did this, Teddy Roosevelt, A. Phillip Randolph, Bono, and Madonna. Louise Hay is, too, and so is John Bradshaw, Anthony Robbins, and Robert Bly. I see a way for a new wing of the Democratic party, the Green Freedom wing, promoting the family values of economic justice and entrepreneurship. More about that later.
At a San Francisco University, researchers discovered that patients recuperating from a heart attack did better if people prayed for them. They did not even know they were being prayed for.
The Five Languages of Love by Gary Chapman, PhD.
When you make a request of your boyfriend or girlfriend, partner or spouse, you are affirming his or her worth or abilities. You are in essence indicating that she has something or can do something that is meaningful and worthwhile to you. When, however, you make demands, you become not a lover, but a tyrant. Your partner will not feel affirmed but belittled. A request introduces the element of choice. Your mate may choose to respond to your request or to deny it, because love is always a choice. That is what makes it meaningful.
Words of Affirmation are one of the five basic love languages. Within that language, however, there are many dialects. All of the dialects have in common the use of words to affirm one’s spouse. Psychologist William James said that possibly the deepest human need is the need to feel appreciated. Words of affirmation will meet that need in many individuals. If you are not a man or woman of words, if it is not your primary love language, but you think it may be the love language of your spouse, let me suggest that you keep a notebook titled “Words of Affirmation.” When you read an article or book on love, record the words of affirmation you find. When you hear a lecture on love or you overhear a friend saying something positive about another person, write it down. In time, you will collect quite a list of words to use in communicating love to your spouse.
You may also want to try giving indirect words of affirmation, that is saying positive things about your spouse when he or she is not present. Eventually, someone will tell your spouse, and you will get full credit for love.
I learned an important lesson about words of affirmation and love languages in Little Rock, Arkansas. MY visit with Bill and Betty Jo was on a geautiful spring day. They lived in a cluster home with white picket fence, green grass, and spring flowers in full bloom. It was idyllic. Once inside, however, I discovered that the idealism ended. Their marriage was in shambles. Twelve years and two children after the wedding day, they wondered why they had married the first place. They seemed to disagree on everything. The only thing they really agreed on was that they both loved the children. As the story unraveled, my observation was that Bill was a workaholic who had little time left over for Betty Jo. Betty Jo worked part time, mainly to get out of the house. Their method of coping was withdrawal. They tried to put distance between themselves so that their conflicts would not seem as large. But the gauge on both love tanks read “empty.”
They told me that they had been going for marriage counseling but didn’t seem to be making much progress.
I spent an hour with each of them separately. I listened intently to both stories. I discovered that in spite of the emptiness of their relationship and their many disagreements, they appreciated certain things about each other. Bob acknowledged, “ She is a good mother. She also is a good housekeeper and an excellent cook when she chooses to cook. But,” he continued, “there is simply no affection coming from her. I work my butt off and there is simply no appreciation.” In my conversation with Betty Jo, she agreed that Bill was an excellent provider. “But,” she complained, “he does nothing around the house to help me, and he never has time for me. What’s the use of having the house, the recreational vehicle, and all the other things if you don’t ever get to enjoy them together?”
With that information, I decided to focus my advice by making only one suggestion to each of them. I told Bob and Betty Jo separately that each one held the key to changing the emotional climate of the marriage. “That key,” I said, “is to express verbal appreciation for the things you like about the other person and, for the moment, suspending your complaints about the things you do not like.” We reviewed the positive comments they had already made about each other and helped each of them write a list of those positive traits….
I suggested that twice a week they select one positive trait and express verbal appreciation for it to the spouse. I gave one further guideline. I told Betty Jo that if Bill happened to give her a compliment, she was not to give him a compliment at the same time but rather, she should simply receive it and say, “Thank you for saying that.” I told Bill the same thing. I encouraged them to do that every week for two months, and if they found it helpful, they could continue. If the experiment did not help the emotional climate of the marriage, then they could write it off as another failed attempt.
The next day, I got on the plane and returned home. I made a note to call Bill and Betty Jo two months later to see what had happened. When I called them in mid-summer, I asked to speak to each of them individually. I was amazed to find that Bill’s attitude had taken a giant step forward. He had guessed that I had given Betty Jo the same advice I had given him, but that was all right. He loved it….
When I talked to Betty Jo, however, I found that she had only taken a baby step forward. She said, “It has improved some, Dr. Chapman. Bill is giving me verbal compliments as you suggested, and I guess he is sincere. But Dr. Chapman, he’s still not spending any time with me. He is still so busy at work that we never have time together.”
As I listened to Betty Jo, the lights came on. I knoew that I had made a significant discovery. The love language of one person is not necessarily the love language of another. It was obvious that Bill’s primary love language was words of affirmation…. Betty Jo, on the other hand, was emotionally crying out for something else. That brings us to love language number two.
When they say "Love conquers all", it is also worth noting that activists like Martin Luther stood up to corrupt powers, lived fulfilling lives, and started families. All kinds of famous activists have done this. John Muir did this, Teddy Roosevelt, A. Phillip Randolph, Bono, and Madonna. Louise Hay is, too, and so is John Bradshaw, Anthony Robbins, and Robert Bly. I see a way for a new wing of the Democratic party, the Green Freedom wing, promoting the family values of economic justice and entrepreneurship. More about that later.
At a San Francisco University, researchers discovered that patients recuperating from a heart attack did better if people prayed for them. They did not even know they were being prayed for.
The Five Languages of Love by Gary Chapman, PhD.
When you make a request of your boyfriend or girlfriend, partner or spouse, you are affirming his or her worth or abilities. You are in essence indicating that she has something or can do something that is meaningful and worthwhile to you. When, however, you make demands, you become not a lover, but a tyrant. Your partner will not feel affirmed but belittled. A request introduces the element of choice. Your mate may choose to respond to your request or to deny it, because love is always a choice. That is what makes it meaningful.
Words of Affirmation are one of the five basic love languages. Within that language, however, there are many dialects. All of the dialects have in common the use of words to affirm one’s spouse. Psychologist William James said that possibly the deepest human need is the need to feel appreciated. Words of affirmation will meet that need in many individuals. If you are not a man or woman of words, if it is not your primary love language, but you think it may be the love language of your spouse, let me suggest that you keep a notebook titled “Words of Affirmation.” When you read an article or book on love, record the words of affirmation you find. When you hear a lecture on love or you overhear a friend saying something positive about another person, write it down. In time, you will collect quite a list of words to use in communicating love to your spouse.
You may also want to try giving indirect words of affirmation, that is saying positive things about your spouse when he or she is not present. Eventually, someone will tell your spouse, and you will get full credit for love.
I learned an important lesson about words of affirmation and love languages in Little Rock, Arkansas. MY visit with Bill and Betty Jo was on a geautiful spring day. They lived in a cluster home with white picket fence, green grass, and spring flowers in full bloom. It was idyllic. Once inside, however, I discovered that the idealism ended. Their marriage was in shambles. Twelve years and two children after the wedding day, they wondered why they had married the first place. They seemed to disagree on everything. The only thing they really agreed on was that they both loved the children. As the story unraveled, my observation was that Bill was a workaholic who had little time left over for Betty Jo. Betty Jo worked part time, mainly to get out of the house. Their method of coping was withdrawal. They tried to put distance between themselves so that their conflicts would not seem as large. But the gauge on both love tanks read “empty.”
They told me that they had been going for marriage counseling but didn’t seem to be making much progress.
I spent an hour with each of them separately. I listened intently to both stories. I discovered that in spite of the emptiness of their relationship and their many disagreements, they appreciated certain things about each other. Bob acknowledged, “ She is a good mother. She also is a good housekeeper and an excellent cook when she chooses to cook. But,” he continued, “there is simply no affection coming from her. I work my butt off and there is simply no appreciation.” In my conversation with Betty Jo, she agreed that Bill was an excellent provider. “But,” she complained, “he does nothing around the house to help me, and he never has time for me. What’s the use of having the house, the recreational vehicle, and all the other things if you don’t ever get to enjoy them together?”
With that information, I decided to focus my advice by making only one suggestion to each of them. I told Bob and Betty Jo separately that each one held the key to changing the emotional climate of the marriage. “That key,” I said, “is to express verbal appreciation for the things you like about the other person and, for the moment, suspending your complaints about the things you do not like.” We reviewed the positive comments they had already made about each other and helped each of them write a list of those positive traits….
I suggested that twice a week they select one positive trait and express verbal appreciation for it to the spouse. I gave one further guideline. I told Betty Jo that if Bill happened to give her a compliment, she was not to give him a compliment at the same time but rather, she should simply receive it and say, “Thank you for saying that.” I told Bill the same thing. I encouraged them to do that every week for two months, and if they found it helpful, they could continue. If the experiment did not help the emotional climate of the marriage, then they could write it off as another failed attempt.
The next day, I got on the plane and returned home. I made a note to call Bill and Betty Jo two months later to see what had happened. When I called them in mid-summer, I asked to speak to each of them individually. I was amazed to find that Bill’s attitude had taken a giant step forward. He had guessed that I had given Betty Jo the same advice I had given him, but that was all right. He loved it….
When I talked to Betty Jo, however, I found that she had only taken a baby step forward. She said, “It has improved some, Dr. Chapman. Bill is giving me verbal compliments as you suggested, and I guess he is sincere. But Dr. Chapman, he’s still not spending any time with me. He is still so busy at work that we never have time together.”
As I listened to Betty Jo, the lights came on. I knoew that I had made a significant discovery. The love language of one person is not necessarily the love language of another. It was obvious that Bill’s primary love language was words of affirmation…. Betty Jo, on the other hand, was emotionally crying out for something else. That brings us to love language number two.
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